- July 25th, 2014
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Of course watching the video of Janay Palmer looking almost lifeless as she lay unconscious on a hotel floor brings you to the conclusion that only a savage would do this to his fiance. A savage that plays football on Sunday and sometimes Thursday and Monday. A savage that has accolades and rushing yards up the wazoo. All rushing yards and first downs aside, Ray Rice eventually went on to marry the woman who is obviously the victim in the video footage. Palmer even dropped charges on her fiance turned husband. Although Rice got some charges, the main eye was on what the NFL would do to the Baltimore Ravens leading rusher.
Now Steven A. Smith spent all morning dishing jabs that some would consider offensive, while others were feeling as though the NFL’s two game suspension seemed to be a slap on the wrist. To be honest with you though, I didn’t even come here to talk about Rice. I came to talk about the dynamics between a man and a woman as a whole.
The question is to what extint does a man have to be pushed before instances of domestic violence occur? Is it ever a feasable response to strike or physically abuse a woman. Of course not! For some strange reason though, the fact that a violent attack occured seems to be far less important to people than rather the punishment was severe enough. The laws are the laws and sometimes criminal activity goes unchecked and even though we don’t agree with these penalties, I think we still need to look at the orgin of the issue. The orgin of the issue is that somewhere in society there is a realm of humanity that believes there is justification for domestic abuse. Now don’t get me wrong, ladies you too can be abusive. At this point we’re not pointing any fingers or placing blame, but honestly my curiousity far extends the reach of why there wasn’t a stiffer punishment. My brain can’t wrap itself around the underlying issue.
This underlying issue is that Palmer, like countless other women, withdraw charges and move forward in relationships that have proven to be physically threatening. Most women who press charges initially, end up dropping charges or withdrawing their statements. Is it because they feel responsible? Or maybe society has made domestic violence a petty issue that doesn’t warrant the dignity of a woman, or man for that matter, to step away from a potentially damaging relationship?
Quite frankly, I’m not certain what the answer is, but it’s increasingly evident that so many charges against abusive partners are eventually dropped because either the victims feel as though they brought it on themselves or that it is somehow becoming the standard in relationships. So with that, Rice gets a two game suspension and a small fine. Perhaps thats the equivalent of laying unconscious on a hotel floor. Catch ya’ on the FLIPSIDE.